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Nathaniel Hall caught HIV aged 16 ‘First Time’ tells his story

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Nathaniel Hall contracted HIV when he lost his virginity aged 16. Fifteen years on he’s written a play, ‘First Time’ about his experience.

Nathaniel Hall
Nathaniel Hall

How did you find out you were HIV positive?

I got ill while on holiday with my parents. I was 16-years-old and we just thought it was something dodgy I’d eaten. When we got back to Manchester my Mum took me to the emergency doctor who said it was probably a waterborne infection – I lost over a stone in weight.

Then I got other symptoms in the downstairs department a few weeks later and so took myself to the GUM (genitourinary medicine) clinic. They told me I was HIV positive two weeks after my 17th birthday.

I had quite a bad sero-conversion – when the body recognises it has HIV and you get symptoms – but for many people the symptoms are similar to a bad cold and they don’t recognise that it is HIV.

What was your initial reaction to the diagnosis?

Total shock and a feeling I’d let people down. I wasn’t stupid, I knew about STI’s and I’d had a conversation about safe sex with my Mum too. But I hadn’t met any other openly gay men prior to meeting this guy – when I did, it was exciting and validating. I let him take the lead as he was older.

I felt ashamed that I’d made such a stupid mistake. Plus, in 2003 I was given a life expectancy of around 37 years – so it was fairly traumatic.

Now I can rationalise that it is just a virus, it doesn’t care who I am or how I caught it – it’s humans who judge like that.

How has your view changed since then?

HIV healthcare was pretty good when I was diagnosed but it has completely changed over the past 15 years. Now I take just one tablet a day and that keeps me healthy.
It took me a long time to shake-off the self-shame and stigma I felt. It was deeply connected to the shame I already felt as a gay man – internalised homophobia is really common amongst gay men – and it was very powerful.

Now I can rationalise that it is just a virus, it doesn’t care who I am or how I caught it – it’s humans who judge like that.

You said you didn’t tell many people for 14 years. What was it like to live with that secret?

I didn’t tell my family which is the thing that haunts me the most. We’re really close but that is how powerful the stigma of this disease can be. I know lots of other HIV positive people who have similar stories of staying quiet with those closest to them.
Over the years I thought I had it all boxed-off and compartmentalised, but the pain worked its way into every aspect of my life. I’d get depressed or angry for little or no reason and I’d sometimes turn to alcohol or drugs to try and self-medicate.

What changed to make you start being more open about being HIV positive?
It all came to a head with a mini-breakdown last year and I knew something had to change. I wrote a letter to my closest family members pouring my heart out and explaining everything.

When did you first have the idea to turn your experience into a play?

I’ve always dreamed of doing something like this with my story and people who knew my story always said how remarkable it was and what a great play it would make. Oddly, I never realised how dramatic it was, as it was just my life!

I work with a range of amazing theatre companies including Contact in Manchester and 20 Stories High in Liverpool and they often use real stories as a starting point for their work, so I was inspired by them, as well as theatre heroes of mine such as trans-theatre maker, Kate O’Donnell and performance artists, Stacy Makishi and Bryony Kimmings.

What was it like to write about something so personal?

I’ve always used writing and poetry to help me make sense of the world and my own experiences so it felt quite natural. But the piece took me to some difficult places and made me revisit my teens with an adult perspective which was tough.

I’ve never written a solo-show before though, so it’s been a long learning process – thankfully I have a whole host of inspiring writers, dramaturgs and theatre-makers around me to help and guide me.

What can people expect who come to see it?

A funny, frank but unapologetic look at what it means to grow up gay and HIV positive in a straight and HIV negative world.

The piece is full of humour but also tinged with moments of pain and sadness – so bring the tissues. It’s not just a monologue either, there’s ‘bad’ drag, lip-syncing, an interactive quiz and loads more that I can’t reveal – expect to go on a journey with me and the rest of the audience.

What is the one thing you would like other people to know about living with HIV?

People living with HIV are demonised as being infectious or dangerous, but this isn’t true. Most new infections come from people who don’t know they have the virus, that’s why it’s so important to get tested regularly. It’s national testing week so get to it!

In fact, people who have been on effective HIV treatment for over 6 months and have an undetectable level of virus in their blood cannot pass on the virus – so people like me are functionally cured in a sense. That’s a radical new development in HIV that people don’t really know about.

Is there anything you’d like to say about the show?

Only that I hope it inspires people to live their lives more openly and honestly and without shame.

First Time, written and performed by Nathaniel, is at Waterside Arts Centre, Sale on 25 July 2019 as part of the Refract festival before heading to the Edinburgh Fringe on July 31.

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Carmel Thomason
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  • Sorry to be more pragmatic about this, but too much coddling for a situation that is nearly a cakewalk to the way it was years ago. While you are celebrating AIDS/HIV Awareness, here’s a situation that is too much of a good thing, literally. Look up Calif. State Law SB-239. It basically decriminalizes any person who knowingly has AIDS and intentionally passes the virus on to infect an innocent but willing participant from a felony to now basically a misdemeanor similar to a moving violation. Why? The hyper-liberal Assembly and governor did not want to send an offensive message to gay folk in the state making it worse for the fact that they already have to live with HIV. AIDS is still a death sentence in more parts of the world than not. Even here, what about intentionally infecting a migrant who is already paranoid about making his/her presence known much less seeking medical help? This “playwright” is yet another privileged person who DECIDED to dabble in an alternative LIFESTYLE and got bitten. Injuries and death from car accidents and fires happen all the time. Yet this person made DECISIONS on his own and got caught. To quote the second half of an old gay slogan, “…get used to it!” Me saying this? Sh_t no! I’ve been backed by the state of California. Just because you think you are a member of some exclusive group does not exonerate you from making bad choices in the first place. The key word here is CHOICE.

  • I just read your News Article. It amazed me how you could only identify being gay at 12 – 14 years young with the onset of puberty. I find that really confirms my hypothesis/ theory.. Which is a “Hormonal induced change at Birth/ Puberty may be affecting gender preferences”.

    Maybe there are other keys.. Nature/Nurture.

    I wonder if there was any occasion where you had to personally choose “Refuse/ Accept”?

    I only wish for any young person’s going through this ‘grey area’ – to Stop and talk to a ‘Neutral’ Counselor’s- before dating or entering into a sexual relationship: Taking the time to process life.. Rather than just being led by life. (That’s the difference between Humans & Animals.)

    Life is not without boundaries!
    Life is not without challenges!
    But every Life needs balance.

    (Grey area’s: Life is seen as Black or White.. But I strongly believe this ‘Same sex Love” is a Search for ‘Something’, as reflected in the complexity or reconstruction of LGBT or LGBTQIA.. “Binary”..

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